Jan 22, 2009

Save Your Relationship With These 3 Counterintuitive Techniques

Trying to save your relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. There is always the worry that
you'll make one wrong move and lose the person you love forever.

Unfortunately, what feels like the right thing to do, is often wrong. Most times we should
follow the 'counterintuitive path'. When we feel like calling is when we should stay cool
instead. When we feel like pouring our hearts out is when we should put a lid on it.
As a warning, the techniques you're about to discover you may have never seen before and
at first glance may look an feel wrong, but have been proven time and again to be effective
in even what seems the most complicated situations.

Counterintuitive Technique #1

The first technique you need to use is to agree with and accept the fact that your ex has broken up with you. This can be very difficult to do and the chances are good that you will have a bit of an internal battle before you're able to do so.

It can definitely help to understand why you need to accept the breakup, and how it can help you get back together. The main reason is because you need to give your ex time to respect and miss you again. The chances are that they are mad or upset with you at the moment, especially if you've beem nagging them about getting back together.

Counterintuitive Technique #2

The second technique you need to use is to cut off all communication. You're probably about ready to close your browser right now! Hold on, because this technique really does work. It helps you to accept the breakup and is the action that shows your ex you are serious.

By not communicating you are allowing your ex time to miss you and time to get over the reasons for breaking up. This space will be good for your mental health as well, and will help you to think clearly. It also sets you up for the next technique.

Counterintuitive Technique #3

The next step is to plan an event where you two can reconnect. But there are many
critical steps in between you can not leave out!